The impact of domestic abuse on separated fathers

This is the third blog in the series The 12 blogs of Christmas

It is still fairly common for people to think that men are rarely the victims of domestic abuse, or that if they are then it is relatively harmless, even comical. However the reality is very different, as shown by Dr Richard Bradford’s study of 220 post-separation fathers. The study found that these men suffered mentally to varying degrees. The men who were suffered most from loneliness, impaired wellbeing, depression and suicidality were the men who were the most at risk from domestic abuse.

It’s sad to think of men going through this, especially around Christmas time, but many psychologists will agree that it’s important that we are realistic about the factors related to men’s mental health, and I think Dr Bradford’s paper is very helpful in that regard. You can download it for free by clicking the button below..

Watch out for the next blog in the series. It’s a totally different study but on a related topic: the psychological impact on separated dads of restrictions on seeing their children.

If you are a father experiencing a stressful time post-separation, you can call the Families Need Fathers helpline 0300 0330 363 (9am - 10pm Monday to Friday, 10am - 3pm at weekends). See their website for other types of help too e.g. support groups.

In case your holiday season is less than happy, here are some places you can contact for support: 

Samaritans lines are open 24/7 (365 days) Tel 116 123 (UK & Ireland)

CALM helpline is open 365 days 5pm - midnight. Tel 0800 58 58 58. Or try the CALM webchat https://www.thecalmzone.net/help/get-help/

If you are a man experiencing domestic abuse, you can call the Mankind Initiative helpline weekdays 10am to 4pm on 01823 334244  

Dr John A. Barry is a Chartered Psychologist and Professional Researcher.  He is a leading expert in the areas of male psychology including men’s mental health and the psychological aspects of polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). His new book, Perspectives in Male Psychology: An Introduction (ISBN: 978-1-119-68535-7), co-authored with Louise Liddon, is published in the new year and is available to pre-order now.